Not getting a call back after your first date, interview or from a prospect can be frustrating. Then the feelings develop: anger, insecurity and beliefs about life being unfair. However entitled we may be to the rewarding and meaningful things, they don’t always materialize. But managing that is essential in our careers, especially as sales people, because the foundation on which the rest is built must be solid.
Anger
Struggling with anger may come in part from rejection. Examining how rejection has created anger is helpful, because it allows you to stop thrawrting yourself. Was your experience different from others because you were rejected or felt rejected? And now, as a result, you’re angry at the lost time and effort? I would want to clear myself of past rejection to move forward without anger grinding me down.
Insecurity
Imagine picking up the phone to convince someone to buy your product and the whole time you know it’s not worth the price, or that it’s likely faulty or superfluous. It would give me a bad, slimy feeling. When we try to pass ourselves off as greater than, sometimes we fail to appreciate that it’s not always about us, and feelings of insecurity creep in. Without taking care of these basic concerns, we can’t influence people and things around us for the better.
Unfairness
Life’s unfair. Fortunately, despite the truth of this phrase, an equally true feeling is that it’s worth it. Letting your hold of this truth go is the reality of people when they let unfairness rule their life; and it makes it hard to be with people, clients, family, and so on. When we do get what we want then it doesn’t feel unfair. But what really do others have to do with whether you’re experiencing fairness or not. You can expect to be disappointed when relying on others to make your life worth it themselves, so it’s up to you to make it worth it yourself.
Conclusion
Let’s consider a failure to do ourselves the benefit of feeling well a fluke and begin again when feelings begin to draw out and deprive us of what we truly deserve from life.